Are you building in a way out?

“Do or do not, there is no try” ~ Yoda

Once you have committed to an inspirational goal – are you second guessing your own abilities?

It happens all the time, sometimes it happens to me. That is why I have a piece of steel on my desk engraved with what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? It is there to remind me that my personal fear is of failing – now it is time for you to ask yourself;

  • what is the worst thing that could happen if I achieve insert your goal here?

yup – that’s right, I want you to ask yourself what horrible things will happen if you achieve your goal! I have heard a lot of interesting things over the years while coaching salespeople;

“people will expect that performance from me forever”

“I’ll get promoted out of what I love doing and have to manage people”

“I’ll spend so much time achieving my goal that I’ll miss out on my own life”

See, there are lots of things that people are afraid of when it comes to inspirational goal achievement. So there is another step; now ask yourself (and you might need someone to coach you through this part, it is tough to see on your own)

  1. Is that true? (yes or no, is it true that what I believe will come to pass?)
  2. Can you ABSOLUTELY know that it’s true?
  3. What happens when you think that?
  4. Who would you be without that thought or belief?

Want more about this idea, check out Byron Katie who asks “who would you be without your story?”

Sometimes the answer is easy, once we say out loud what the fear is – it loses it’s hold over our heart and mind. Other times we have built our existence on the idea and to leave it behind is almost more painful that living with the story.

Now for the next tough question:

  • what is the worst thing that could happen if I fail in insert your goal here?

Once I heard Tim Green (author & former football player) speak about goals. He is someone who looking from the outside, you and I would see as a golden boy always achieving everything he had set out to do. Instead, he read a list of goals he had set for himself and NOT achieved.

Of course then he went on to say without lofty goals, he wouldn’t have achieved everything he had.

Since we are talking about achieving your inspirational goals – is it really a bad thing to go for it, work hard, and fall a little short? I don’t think so!

Now play with Byron Katie’s questions again with the worst thing that could happen if you fail to achieve your inspirational goal.

“I can’t believe it” ~ Luke, “That is why you fail” ~ Yoda

Here we are back to the wisdom of Yoda; Believe. Believe in yourself, your potential to learn, and your ability to succeed. Above all else, believe you deserve to reach your inspirational goal.

Tall orders for a Monday morning, I know – if you need help, find a coach – no one said you have to be on this path alone.

 

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